THE SAME OLD BLOKEY STORY
course the girl who has made allegations against a Collingwood
footballer might not be telling the truth. By why, when a woman makes
an allegation must former footballers and clusters of blokes claim
she’s doing what women always do, ‘lie about rape’?When
former footballer Peter Everitt says ‘Yet another alleged girl, making
alleged allegations after she awoke with an alleged hangover and I take
it an alleged guilty conscience’ he speaks for the apologists. The girl
obviously had a night of group sex but in the cold light of day felt so
guilty she had to turn the consensual sex into rape, thinks Everitt.
Even if this is true, what evidence is there that women routinely lie
about consensual sex? A few years
back a retiring judge in NSW said the most distressing part of his work
was the number of times men guilty of rape wwere found not guilty by a
jury. There is simply no evidence that women commonly use rape
allegation to damage a man. Yes, it can happen but it is so rare as to
make a mockery of the suggestion that it’s what women do.What
does Peter Everitt mean when he says ‘Girls!! When will you learn! At
3am when you are blind drunk and you decide to go home with a guy it’s
not for a cup of milo ‘? What an old fashioned and patronising view of
women. Women routinely go home with a bloke for sex. And when was the
last time one of them ‘cried rape’?
Ask the Collingwood boys how many
of them scored after the grand final and whether the woman they were
with has run to the police claiming to have been raped? This
isn’t a case where sex or alcohol is the issue at hand. It’s about
whether a woman's human rights have been trashed and she'd been
pressured or forced into non-consensual sex. We can privately imagine
what might have happened but why must men like Peter Everitt imply that
any woman who puts herself in such a situation is either asking for it
or lying about what happened?
In my book Just another little murder I wrote about how in the late 1950s Collingwood icon Frank Galbally –
father of collingwood layer David Galbally - grilled a young girl who’d
made an allegation of rape against a number of men whether she’d been
wearing lipstick on the night of the assault. How little things have changed?
What a friend said
'These unfounded allegations...'
We want fairness for the blokes but for a woman there is nothing but disregard and the belief that she is lying..